Although Mothers Day is not fraught for me the way it is for so many, I will be watching with interest next Sunday to see which way our meeitng falls. Some few are probably actively trying to avoid the gifts, trying hard to not remember the lack thats been rubbed in her face all day long. What does that say about the role of motherhood? I think its terribly sad that growing up Mormon, I never heard anyone make any serious attempt to talk about Heavenly Mother on Mothers Day. Sacrament meeting is the term for a regular Latter-day Saint worship service, usually held each week on Sunday, where the sacrament (similar to communion) is offered to the members of the Church. I choose to stay away for most MDs and all FD. Loverboy was gone, she was outside of the church, and she had no means of support. Honestly, considering how touchy this subject is (women w/out kids, abusive moms, separated/divorced men who don't want to be, moms who've passed, etc), I'd focus on Womanhood. Why in the church is there such a strong, almost secular aversion to motherhood? She cares about your eternal safety and happiness. Elder Perry uses personal stories and memories of his own mother to illustrate the importance of teaching the gospel inside the home. May your prayers be answered and your hopes and dreams become realities.. I have been called by God to be there and that is where I should be. Not wordingthat well. After a lot of thought and prayer I called two sisters to speak on some of the blessings and also the challenges of raising children in the gospel. It is even worse when women are so enthused with Father's Day that they want to ignore it completely - as in absolutely not mention it. The hard part for me is when I hear talks about angel mothers where I actually know whom they are talking about. Fun Photos of Latter-day Saint Leaders in the Snow! I Know I would like Mothers Day more if they changed the official hymn of the day from Love at Home to this one (to be sung from the perspective of the mother): 1. Well done! . Young Latter-day Saint priesthood . Well, counselor x/counselor y is in charge of May, I dont know what hes doing for sure . Get plenty HPs and Elders. Our current ward celebrates Mothers Day with the obligatory talks. Im asking this out of genuine curiosity/responsibility for handing stuff out. However, like you, I thought Fathers Day was a done and done. Cant we just give praise and gratitude for the atonement, and human goodness and resiliance inspite its adversity and imperfection? I dont know why that would be, unless people are just assuming we ache for something more to nurture. Have You Discovered the Love of The Everyday Christ? Any Advice? It seems like awareness and knowing your audience as mentioned before, is half the battle. I still dont understand it, which is probably why Im still very nervous about having kids. I found out the hard way after a long list of them declined to give the talk. Mothers day will likely be about Gods unconditional love for us and how it pains Him to see us struggle And how even mothers cannot quite reach that level of love, but we understand the concept because most of us love our children in much the same way (but n, Focus your talk on how much we ALL need Jesus (even mothers) because we are all sinners (read the Bible It tells us so). I also have plenty of friends who are single sisters and they mourn growing older and menopause because they wont be able to have the children they want to hold and love. Further, that it wasnt the wards responsibility to celebrate the day. That in no way shape or form precludes me from looking to Christ/HF/HM for ideals. "We express our love to those in this congregation and our prayers for the victims and their families. The fathers dont seem to feel as guilty about things as the mothers do,,,. I cant quite relate that to Motherhood but maybe he will. Maybe the Hallmark channel should use some of his conference clips as fillers when movies end early. I am understanding your POV. Ugh ugh ugh. I gave a MD talk one year and focused on Emma Smith, Naomi the MIL of Ruth and my daughter who was a young mother at the time. Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. This reflects a very different image than the one we portray to the world about our values and what we say means the most to us. What would happen, if, at the start of sacrament meeting on Mothers Day, the bishop announced that there would be two separate meetings. MD is a day I prefer to play hookey, especially now that my mother is currently lost in alzheimers disease. We already talk about the topic, motherhood, every Sunday. This talk by Sheri Dew focuses on how motherhood is for all women, regardless if they have children or not. I was asked to speak 3 times on MD during my infertility phase. A cookie in a baggie? Thats what insulin is for. So that no woman felt left out. I would also love all quotes, conf talks, songs be from women to reinforce the value/insight/talent women have. Elder Ballard lists three ways mothers can do that; first, is realizing joy comes in moments, second is to not overschedule children, and third, to find time to cultivate talents and interests. It is not that women want to be from Venus, but they want to be from Venus five universes beyond our own. As far as Jesus is concerned, he was sinless so is able to stand as an ideal. Because disciples can be wayward in their faith we should not celebrate Christmas because it causes too much pain in those who remain more faithful. President Hinckley addressed all the women of the Church and thanked them for all the work they do in their families, congregations, and communities. The perfect hymn for Mothers Day Sacrament meeting. But these are good points. Oh, and my husband is speaking in our ward this Mothers Day. They want to give a message of comfort and support to other parents who are navigating the difficult conflicts that can arise in families around this issue. Our ward always does flowers, right after Sacrament meeting, and this is a real problem for me because of my allergies. Tony, thanks! What do you think when you see a used car lot with a sign like this: Honest Abes Used Cars! All my daily tasks fulfilling, Sacrament meetings include music, talks, testimonies and prayers. I know I dont have any say on when the thread closes, but it would be interesting to hear feedback from how each persons respective wards handled MD, and how the people assigned to talk felt their messages were delivered and/or received. Required fields are marked *. Reading over those messages, it is hard to come up with any form of consensus other than, everyone has a different opinion. Ive lived in numerous family wards, and Ive never gotten as much as a crumb for Fathers Day, at least not from church. ), Miriam his sister who obeyed her mother and stayed with him and suggested her mother be his nursemaid, and the daughter of Pharoah, who raised him. Through this ordinance, Church members renew the covenants they made with God when they were baptized. Especially since whoever asked him to speak didnt learn their lesson and he said the exact same talk a year later. Watching the Primary children singing to their mothers in Sacrament meeting was the hardest. Why shouldn't women be those who teach about the glory of god that is woman? I don't understand it, but it is your logic. After observing and empathizing with three generations of mothers and thinking of my own dear mother, I surely know that there is no role in life more essential and more eternal than that of motherhood.. Nourishing their souls instead of feeding their bodies? Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. Please know that it is worth it then, now, and forever.. You dont come, you dont get one. Last year, I did an arrangement of "I Often Go Walking" for the Primary children and our ward choir to perform together. But I still think the Dove bars our bishop chooses rock the holiday. So this year we are setting up tables and chairs in the gym, hauling in meat and cheese and veggies and chocolate, and the Bishop will talk for five minutes and then we will let everybody socialize while I play the tuba for the entire primary. I believe he has mellowed and gained wisdom over the years and was a part of a later bishopric. I think this can be especially true for women who feel theyre just holding on. The main message I gathered from reviewing this survey is, keep it simple, dont try tohave specific female messages during the meetings, and then serve a fun refreshment in the third hourjust because. Have a young child, a teenager, husband and elderly father take you through the different phases of motherhood in their own point of view. President Hinckley directly addresses mothers in this talk, commending them for the wonderful thing they have done by becoming mothers, but offering insights on their greatest challenge: to be able to answer the question How well have my children done? with happiness. (did I mention he and his wife were not parents yet?). That we be a great subject for Mother's Day. Your arrangement sounds really cool. Crowd-sourcing request. As always, Kurt, I was happy to give you a hand with this! This ordinance is an essential part of worship and spiritual development. Best Mother's Day Topics, Scriptures, Conference Talks, Etc. Alma 56:47-48. The good news is, most sisters want chocolate from their ward family and most sisters usually get chocolate. She has your best interests at heart. Kind of it takes a village/ward to raise a child philosophy. Great, and I was just asked to talk on Sunday, I guess I will be very careful. Even though Mothers Day is now a reasonably happy day for me personally, I still find that my mind is focused on how other women in my ward might be experiencing it. This might be a useful reference in terms of stories about Christ and women (not saying to cite it, just to get scripture references and helpful context): http://www.fairmormon.org/perspectives/fair-conferences/2015-fairmormon-conference/christs-emancipation-of-women-in-the-new-testament. Those were the kinds of talks I gave, and thats what I would rather listen to. So He can be ideal AND real. But I see where you are coming from. When we value families so strongly we should celebrate the roles of motherhood and fatherhood. I have to go home right after Sacrament meeting, because the Sisters all bring their flowers with them to the other meetings. In my home ward, we once had a Mothers Day Sacrament Meeting the topic of which was the priesthood. Then they would close by saying that it was the most wonderful blessing imaginable. She talked about how her convert mother negotiated church attendance with her inactive husband, how she brought the gospel into the home to the extent she could while maintaining close family ties and coping with her own faith struggles, and how her example and choices blessed her home. Its a complete set-up for failure. Can they not celebrate their own mothers? Trust her. If you want to hear from real women who haveread scriptures andheld FHEand family prayer, but whose son is in jail or whose 16-year-old daughter is pregnant or whose husband has left her, then you should meet in the cultural hall. It was given by one of my high school friends. each year when I plan the Mother's Day sacrament meeting I feel an extra bit of pressure to make it special for our wives and mothers. I may have to borrow that. Really? LDS Mother's Day Gift Ideas: Great Gifts for LDS Women Mother's Day Cupcake Flower Card Mother's Day Gift Ideas: 10 Ways to Show Your Love on Mother's Day Mother's Day Chapstick Idea Mother's Day Questionnaire & Gift Idea Mother's Day Gift Idea: Candy Necklaces Mother's Day Treat Tags Mother's Day gift idea: Candy Flower Bouquets Categories Is it callender time, number of posts, how irritated the host is with the comments! Ill be checking back! Flowers were also given to anyone who wanted to wear one in honour of their mothers. It can be any of those. Steve P, The talks are mostly bearable (though no picnic), but the worst is when the youth would spread out in search of women who were not holding whatever flower or chocolate. Mtg. Then she spoke with conviction about the grace of Godthe grace that helped her forgive herself for the serious problems she caused her children that could have been prevented if shed prepared herself, and the grace that helped her achieve later in life the spiritual depth she had lacked when her children were young. By Especially for those women that aren't mothersbut, a big but, these women are mothers to villages, pets, and extended family all the time! Im also a High Councilor, who always tries very much not to speak in rose-colored platitudes that, sadly, you associate with High Council speakers. I guess mothers also die, just like plants, but not usually at our own hands. It falls short when it is not delivered with love, patience, acceptance, humility, an understanding of the limitations of REALITY, and the the Gift of the Holy Ghost. My preference is for a talk focusing on women of the scriptures. Mothers Day for me is when my children and Grandchildren call me. Women are saved in child bearing is good as always. Then the clincher, it is only for women to celebrate and they need to be left alone to celebrate it as they demand and see fit. Primary kids singing, oh, 12 songs, and then someone real standing up and talking about the incredible power of hope, even when we feel that we dont measure up, and the wonder of the atonement and Gods love for us. Thats the last thing a mother needs, responsibility for yet another living thing. It defines our very identity, our divine stature and nature, and the unique traits our Father gave us.. Latter-day Saint Life. A later version of the holiday occurred in Europe where they would celebrate the Mother Church (the church as the bride of Christ and as the mother of their spiritual rebirth through baptism) and they would decorate the church with flowers and jewels. He suffered for the sins, sorrows, and pains of all people, providing remission of sins for those who repent and live the gospel (see 2Nephi 9:2123). It has been another hellish week, reminding me of all my faults and short-comings as a mother, all that went wrong for me as a daughter, and it has all brought me a liitle closer to God, who is repeatedly teaching me that one-size-does-not-fit-all, or most or even many. The Spirits constant companionship is one of the greatest gifts of mortality. Honoring Fallen Parents: The Fifth Commandment and Romans 3:23 The Fifth Commandment enjoins: "Honor thy father and thy mother." Until I see a longer lasting cease fire, Im staying home MD (with my mother and daughters). The Primary president asked him, as Chorister, to write a new song for the kids to sing in sacrament meeting on Mother's Day. Because children can be wayward we should not celebrate parenthood. When mothers know who they are and who God is and have made covenants with Him, they will have great power and influence for good on their children.. Sacrament meeting is a time for us to renew our covenants, it is a sacred ordinance. Ere the sun goes down. Sometime in the mid-1990s, I went to the ward library after sacrament meeting to obtain materials for teaching a lesson. There are wrongs that need redressing I have had a lot of thoughts about Father's Day because my father passed away on May 23 about a month ago. Motherhood is more than bearing children, though it is certainly that. She is buried in the same plot as my great-grandmother as well so it was nice to be able to be there with them again. When chocolate is handed out, our children end up begging for it but its the one day I wont share. 3. I was dreading it, but I was rescued by my sister coming to town for the next 3 days yayyyy. It worked well in my ward, I think. I already have felt many of the concerns expressed, and approach this assignment with fear and trembling. Ann (#76), Im sorry to hear about your mothers passing. No talk is necessary, but a simple acknowledgement of our love for all the women in our lives is nice. The best MD talk I ever heard was given by my neighbor. Since my mom has unacknowledged mental health issues, this is my oldest sister and a lady in L.A. who I still keep in contact with. http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2008/04/daughters-of-god?lang=eng, Ray (#58) Steve Ps post is evidence that a talk from 2007 which has been essentially corrected is still being recycled today. Nothanks to my back problems got to fly non-stop from Atlanta to Seattle. XD. (Sorry to barge in madhousewife). There are sins that need confessing; Im thankful for ideals even when I dont measure up not even often let alone all the time. Part of this ordinance is a promise to remember Him always and a witness of individual willingness to take upon oneself the name of Jesus Christ and to keep His commandments. Id also like a break from a poem in the EFMormons which says that no painting, no book, no song penned by a mother could be as great as a worSocrates by their children in the future, so spending your time raising the next generation is the greatest thing you can do. anon, pretty sure hearing about an old guys non-existent sex life is worse. Alece, its usually when the admins sense that the conversation is no longer productive, or when we dont have time or patience to keep monitoring the thread. Really perfect for MD! Although I like the idea of them as well! If I would obtain the blessing, I have some ideas of speaker topics but I thought I would start a thread for suggestions of topics, scriptures, conference talks, etc that would help make a great Sacrament Meeting that . We all do., The relationship between mothers and daughters is at the heart of this talk from Elder Ballard. I believe the best thing a man can do is not to love his wife in word, but to help her find and be and become whatever she truly wants to be and become outside of her role as mother. #46 That is an awesome idea for your talk. It hits pretty close because Im one of those lucky people who get to speak on Mothers Day this year. 34 Ideas for LDS Sacrament Meeting Talks When People Don't Apologize: Forgiving and finding reconciliation with God Would borrow from Forgiveness + Tribulation, a talk I gave fall 2019. 2. As a member of our bishopric, I assigned the topics for this weeks talks, all motherhood focused, and I have forwarded your paragraph with Elder Eyrings quote to each of them. Yes! And, invariably, as soon as I would send one on his way, Im not a mother, thank you, another would pop up at my elbow, dutifully, kindly twisting the knife. All Might spark some interesting conversations. She told us that as a girl, she would sit in her room crying, with big welts on the back of her hands, but now that she was grown up, she understood why her mother did it, and she was grateful, by golly. I didnt enjoy Mothers Day during my years of infertility, but Ive been surprised that I enjoy it even less now that I have children. The "Sacrament Meeting Program" app provides users a quick, easy way to create their sacrament meeting programs. I must let my voice be heard, Use Mothers Day as an example of how a saint can use a tradition of men as an acceptable way to express Gods love and promulgate the Gospel. I should clarify that my mother (and father) are wonderful and I have no complaints. Regarding the giveaways: in my ward for the last several years, all of the women have been given chocolates on Mothers Day (very nice ones). Diversity and Unity in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Environmental Stewardship and Conservation, Joseph Smiths Teachings about Priesthood, Temple, and Women, Peace and Violence among 19th-Century Latter-day Saints, The Manifesto and the End of Plural Marriage, Translation and Historicity of the Book of Abraham. We do need to have some kind of an ideal, even if we may not measure up to it occasionally, or even ever! Gospel Q&A: Can Satan Hear Our Prayers? I chuckled, but was not surprised when I saw that chocolate was the most popular! What if you brought in padded RS chairs for the YW & PRI workers, including Nursery sisters, so that they can feel a little comfort on that Sunday? Diabetic others, for example. I did this for five years and the sisters seemed to enjoy sitting, chatting, and not having a child demanding a bit of their pie. It seems sometimes that activity organizers believe somehow that no one will participate if not bribed by pizza, pop, potato chips or pie. Through the shedding of His blood, Jesus Christ saved all people from what the scriptures call the original guilt of Adams transgression (Moses 6:54). I have work enough to do, THAT is what non-denominational Christian churches do :). Church meetings Sacrament Meeting Overview To find a ward near you, try the Meetinghouse Locator, which will also provide sacrament meeting times, driving directions, and contact information. Thats the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me! Ideals ALL! The broken bread is a reminder of His body and His physical sufferingespecially His suffering on the cross. You can still give the women the day off. Replies to my comments The division of labor between the holidays helped to alleviate some of the awkwardness of the women = mothers mindset that we face in the US. My kids are way too distracting. I dont need to socialize at church. What does it mean when we want to remove motherhood from Mother's Day? at all.. American LDS women who attended Sacrament Meeting were told that they have a lot of innate qualities, such as being righteous, spiritual, pure, or nurturing. So far, so good. All women were given a 'present' which looked like a flower or something, I didn't inspect it; many men and women took extra ones to give to any mother or lady in the neighborhood, single, mother, any sister or non member. I know of no better answer to [the] foul practices that confront our young people than the teachings of a mother, given in love with an unmistakable warning.. She was a wonderful example for motherhood, womanhood, and peoplehood. It just screamed, whoops, we forgot to order flowers in time and ran out to walmart last night and bought up whatever womanly thing we could find. Examples? first adult speaker: Motherhood is like a roller coaster: there are lots of ups and downs, and sometimes you just have to close your eyes and scream., second adult speaker, quoting a Native American proverb: The soul would have no rainbow if the eyes had no tears., benediction, by a former Bishop: Heavenly Father, we speak with thee every day, and we look forward to the day when we can renew our relationship with Heavenly Mother.. 30 Inspiring LDS Quotes About Mothers & Motherhood, Church Leaders Honor Mothers Over the Holiday Weekend, Church Releases Tribute to Mothers, You Are Enough, FREE Happy Mothers Day Coloring Page Printable, The Family is a Divine Blessing | 6 March 2023, Come Follow Me Recap Thy Faith Hath Saved Thee | 5 March 2023, Miracles Come Through Fasting | 4 March 2023, Young Latter-day Saint Missionary Passes Away in Georgia, 5 Things You Didnt Know About the Day the LDS Church Was Organized. Kristine, thank you again. *As I type this, I know for a fact that someone out there is going to respond that their ward gives men plants for Fathers Day every year. Please Please Please! I like the idea of a simple gift for those in attendance. The reminder was given to visit those sisters unable to attend on Mothers Day. It was the service ofthe sisters that made the talk memorable. More than at any time in the history of the world, we need mothers who know. Something else for me to kill.. My mom still to this day says it was the best Mothers Day talk ever. A year later he died in a car accident, and the children went back to mom, whose life was now very different. But from my description, it sounds like the typical platitudinous MD talk. Scriptural women are perhaps safer :-) And in our ward, the men get cans of Dads Root Beer or Sugar Daddy candies. I have no aversion to motherhood being spoken of in church. JUST kidding. It was an emotional rollercoaster of raised hopes and disappointments. Probably low on the most desired list, but very creative and I will always remember that with a smile. Over 70 countries observe Mothers Day, but some of them still retain these spiritual roots whereas in the US its mostly a commercial holiday. I would say that my grandmother was like a second mother to us, but really she was like a first mother. Maybe Ill get a pizza and tell the kids to cook it for breakfast when Sunday morning comes. The music . We changed the lines to "Mother Do You Love Me". I love that song but our ward music coordinator has musical numbers lined up already. Also waiting by the library's tiny window with the Dutch door was a . And chocolate. Some women think that you dont talk enough about mothers while other people think you talk too much about them. Thanks, kc! "I am a sociopathic perverted mess emotionally and mentally thanks to the influence of my insane codependent mother.'". Perhaps it shouldnt be mothers day, but be Womans day and celebrate the contributions of women of faith in their families and communities. Is this our Sharon Haynie from DN branch? The primaries (100 of them? Last time I spoke on Mother's Day I was texting during my talk. I'm fascinated by these two suggestions because I was leaning toward only having youth and men speak so that all the mothers had the day off. Elder Ballard lists three ways mothers can do that; first, is realizing joy comes in moments, second is to not overschedule children, and third, to find time to cultivate talents and interests.. So for over a decade, Ive loved Mothers Day, just because I know it wont end with all of us crying.
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